Dying to Live: The End of Fear by David Parrish
All psychological and emotional suffering has a single root cause: mistaken identity.
We believe we are a person. A body with a name, a history, a personality, a set of thoughts and feelings that belong to us. This belief is not a conscious choice. It is the result of conditioning that begins in infancy and is reinforced without interruption by language, culture, relationships, and the agreement of virtually everyone around us. By the time we are adults, the belief that we are a person feels not like a belief at all but like simple fact.
Parrish argues this is the most consequential mistake a human being can make, and it is made by almost everyone. Because once you believe you are a person, you are subject to everything a person is subject to: fear, loss, humiliation, aging, disease, and death. The person is inherently unstable, constantly threatened, and compelled to expend enormous energy managing its existence. Anxiety, depression, addiction, and relationship dysfunction are not disorders that happen to the person. They are natural consequences of being identified as one.